How does sexual desire work? Movies would have us believe it's all spontaneity and lightning bolts of horny. It can totally work that way! But that's not the only way. Learn the many ways desire can show up in our bods and relationships.

Purity culture really clouded every bit of information I learned about my body. From what it “should” look like, to how I should (or rather, shouldn’t), use it.

Here's what I wish I'd learned instead.

Many people fear that scheduling sex is a failure. They've spent years of life watching characters in movies come into the scene and start ripping each other's clothes off-- in the kitchen, in the copy room at work, in an abandoned teachers lounge.  Sex... it's supposed to be spontaneous! 

Or is it?