Not Your Crumpled Flower

Embracing Sexuality After Purity Culture

Tuesdays, from 6-8pm Eastern

Beginning February 18th-April 8th

What if conversations about sex + pleasure didn’t immediately bring up feelings of shame and panic?

What if you had a space where you could reflect on crafting a personal set of sexual values based—not on guilt and judgment— but on pleasure, connection, and honest communication?

What would you ask if you knew the people in the (zoom) room “got it”? That they’d understand all too well what you mean when you say that you’re not sure what you desire. That they, too, always secretly wanted to know the factual sex ed they never got growing up.

Welcome to Not Your Crumpled Flower. In this 8 week series, you will get to learn alongside others who are exploring what intimacy + sexuality can look like when it centers pleasure, self-advocacy, and making space for your authentic self.

NYCF was created by a Certified Sexuality Educator + coach who grew up queer and in the purity culture of Catholicism for 19 years. Believe me, I know that unlearning purity culture can be a journey. Let this space be a supportive step on the trail.

For People Who…

  • are ready to identify and challenge the harmful messages purity culture placed in your sexual + intimate life.

  • are excited to learn the accurate sex ed info you’re convinced everyone else learned… but you.

  • seek to replace sexual shame with pleasure and connection rooted in values that fit who you are today.

  • want their sexual experiences to be fun and connected, but don’t know where to begin.

  • are excited to learn ways to communicate their boundaries and desires with confidence because, no, you aren’t “too much.”

  • and so much more!

The Curriculum:

Week 1: Purity culture myth-busting

Week 2: Exploring sex-positive values

Week 3: Pleasure anatomy (and other sex ed you didn't get in school)

Week 4: Challenging sexual shame

Week 5: Discovering desire (what do I even like?)

Week 6: Communicating desires + boundaries

Week 7: Bringing play into your intimate + sexual experiences

Week 8: Tools for your continued sexuality journey.

Bonus self-guided modules on:

  • Diet Culture, Purity Culture, and the Body

  • Sex + Chronic Illness

  • Tools for Healing Religious TraumaR

  • Exploring Queer Identity After Purity Culture

What You’ll Get!

  • 8 live virtual classes (and access to class recordings within 48 hours)

  • Group community chat, with trauma-informed guidelines and regular prompts

  • Weekly workbooks to accompany each live class, filled with reflections and activities

  • Suggested activities sheets provided weekly to support your personal journey between classes

  • Access to our private portal, filled with bonus modules from experts + an ever-growing resource guide to support your journey long after our 8 weeks

  • 1 individual virtual coaching session

  • Veronica is an awesome leader and amazing cheerleader. This group was a great intro into breaking free from purity culture and oppressive sexuality. The community was so kind, accepting, and encouraging. Definitely recommend this group!

    Former NYCF Participant

  • Not Your Crumpled Flower has been a game changer for me. I wish I could adequately describe what each lesson meant or me, but I can say I feel more confident in myself and my ability to communicate my desires as well as my boundaries. I feel more empowered in my sexuality!

    Former NYCF participant

  • This course will leave you feeling empowered in mind, body, and soul. Veronica is a wonderful coach who utilizes her passion, skill, and knowledge to support self-discovery, kindness, and embracing one’s sexual self. She gives a roadmap to navigate challenging topics and emotions while setting and maintaining boundaries for all (and resources for diving deeper when needed).

    Former NYCF Participant

  • I've never felt so empowered to talk about my sexuality! Gaining the skills to challenge shame and the vocabulary to communicate my desires changed my outlook on sex and pleasure. Veronica created a supportive environment where I was validated and felt like I'm not alone in this. I highly recommend this workshop for anyone looking for a shame-free sexual education workshop!

    Former NYCF Participant

Is this group virtual or in person?

Virtual! Meetings will be held over a password protected video platform!

Frequently Asked Questions

Will this group be confidential?

We aim to protect the privacy of participants through use of a password protected meeting link. Participants will be asked to sign a confidentiality agreement before our first meeting to protect the stories + identities of all participants.

I have a conflict one of the Tuesdays. Can I still apply?

You can! We will record the meetings so you can catch up on any content you’ve missed.

Do I have to be raised in religion to attend?

Nope! While religion may have added a specific flavor to your experience of purity culture, many of us have experienced its pressures, messages, and impacts just by exisiting around it.

How much does it cost?

The cost for all 8 weeks is $400. If you’d like to break your payments up separately, note it in your application and we’ll make it happen! Sliding scale is available for QTPOC and SWers. I want this series to be accessible to you! You can pay the whole thing in one go, or you can break the amount into 3 monthly payments! No extra $ added on.

Why do I have to “apply”? Will I get in?

We want to be sure that we are serving your needs and hopes when you join NYCF! By answering questions in the application, we get to further customize the curriculum *and* make sure there aren’t any trolls trying to sneak in and wreak havoc!

Still Have Questions? Reach out here!